Crafting Your Wild and Sexy Weekend
It is the very first week of summer. Happy Summer Solstice!!
I deemed this the "Summer of Fun!" and for the past few weeks I have been planning out all the fun adventures that I want to have. Time goes by so quickly and I want to enjoy this incredible season while it lasts. I don't want to be left at the end of this season asking myself "Have I made the most of it?" "Has this summer been everything I hoped for?"
We have the chance to make this the most memorable summer of our lives!!
Are you ready?
I have found that inspiring women to have more FUN is actually a huge part of my work.
When I was in the thick of being in my own personal "body jail", I would try so hard to “be good” with food all week so that by the time the weekend rolled around, I was so ready to let loose and go wild and inevitably I would crash and burn by Sunday night. I’d wake up on Monday morning feeling hungover, bloated, fat, guilty and embarrassed by my behavior.
Not a great way to start the week.
When I started adopting the strategies I teach in Eat. Play. Love. my group coaching program,
I realized that what I was craving on the weekends wasn’t food, but permission to cut-loose, have fun and let my sexy out!
So I started crafting my own custom Wild Weekends for myself and having a blast! In the process I lost 2 dress sizes.
Today, I want to help you craft YOUR custom wild and sexy weekend, so you can wake up on Monday feeling rejuvenated, alive, in love and beautiful. You might even feel slimmer after just 2 days!
Here it goes, grab a pen…
Your Guide to Crafting a Sexy, Restorative, Wild Weekend
Step 1: Carve out the categories.
When we have weekends that are filled with one party, gathering or meal after another, it can be totally draining. And if we spend the whole weekend inside reading, meditating, and sipping tea by ourselves, we can get really bored. Both can lead to overeating.
SO it’s really important to make time for these activities:
Restoration
Cutting Loose
Connecting
Education/Self-Improvement
Here’s a sample schedule for inspiration:
Friday Night, Connect: Go on a fabulous date with your lover, yourself, or your best friend. If it's your lover, don’t ask “what do you want to do?” Just make the decision yourself and tell your partner what’s up. OR say, “Hey (insert name of your fave person) I’d love for you to go out to dinner with me tonight, will you find a place and make a reservation? Something French would be amazing. Just tell me where and when to meet you.” If this would totally freak your partner out, give 3 options, and tell your partner to decide. If you’re single, call up a lady-friend, your favorite man-friend or ask out that guy you’ve had a crush on. Why the hell not?
Saturday Morning, Restore: Get up by 9am, go for a quick walk by yourself, make a simple breakfast and catch up on your favorite blogs. Maybe even go to yoga… no pressure though. And ask your partner for a foot massage (totally want this to be my new favorite past time).
Saturday Afternoon, Educate: Bring a book to a café and read for a couple hours (I’ll be reading Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo this weekend). Or go to a museum, a lecture, a guided tour, a documentary, write a letter to your unborn child, anything that makes your brain work and has nothing to do with your career. I think it’s powerful to spend a little time on Saturday afternoons alone, even if your partner is dying to spend time with you. Tell your man to go watch college football, he’ll think you’re the coolest woman ever.
***I know it can be tricky with soccer games, swim lessons etc. in the summertime, so the key is to get up earlier than you normally would so you can get a little extra time in the morning. Either for quiet personal time or so you can get chores done early and have time for you in the afternoon.
Saturday Night, Cut Loose: Carve out at least 1+ hours to get ready (see below). (If you know me at all then you know I am not one to typically primp and prep...but keep reading on).
Then get a group of people together, couples or girlfriends. Plan something where you can wear a hot dress and sip a martini. Then go dancing. Either at a club, a concert, or back home with your honey.
Sunday Morning, Restore: Sleep in, as late as you want (or as late as the kids will allow).
No guilt allowed. When you wake up take a long shower or a bubble bath.
Sunday Afternoon, Cut Loose: Sunday afternoons have the potential to be super depressing with work approaching in less than 24 hours. Make sure Sundays are filled with pleasure-filled adventure. Enjoy a European lunch (lunch with wine), explore a new neighborhood, go for a hike to a lake, see a movie, get your nails done or go water skiing.
Sunday Evening, Connect: Cruise by the grocery store, pick up basics for the week and ingredients for an easy dinner. Try grilled salmon, kale salad and brown rice cooked with white wine, garlic and butter. Super easy and super delish. Set your table, enjoy your meal sans TV and enjoy the company and conversation of your loved ones.
Step 2: Shake things up.
If you’re not happy with your body or your life, try doing things differently, even if it seems completely unrelated to weight loss.
* Wear heels to brunch and flats to dinner
* Throw on red lipstick to go to the grocery store
* Have sex in the middle of the day
* Work out on the weekend
* Change up your hair-do
* Paint your nails a bold color
* Make a new friend
* Drink tea instead of coffee or order pasta instead of a salad
Living against the grain is a great adventure. When you have adventure in your life, diving into a pint of ice cream seems far less exciting.
Step 3: Look Fabulous
Just try for one weekend wearing one fabulous outfit after another, including what you wear to bed and around the house. I know sometimes you may hate drawing attention to your body, but accentuating your curves instead of hiding your fabulous ass for 48 hours isn’t going to kill you. If you don’t have anything to wear, go shopping.
Step 4: Eat Dessert.
Both nights baby, order that chocolate lava cake or crème brulee. I give you full permission, so no guilt allowed. Really savor every bite, eat it slowly and make orgasm noises while you’re eating (trust me, it makes it so much better).
Step 5: Flirt.
Flirting is an invaluable art, but it’s important for you to know that you can flirt without leading men on. It’s about owning your beauty and sensuality and knowing that the barista, guy at the next table or the runner you’re about to pass is damn lucky to be within 3 feet of you.
Smile, hold eye contact and see how it makes you feel. It’ll make your whole weekend feel exciting. Say hello to someone new and start up a conversation. It is amazing the beautiful people we can connect with when we open up and share.
Step 6: Love more.
It’s time to get real with your lover, your girlfriends, your parents, your grandparents. Tell at least one person why you love them, how they’ve shaped you, your favorite memory about them. Spread the warm and fuzzy. It’s amazing how you stop caring about your love-handles when you have a better handle on love.
I can’t wait for you to design your wild weekend. Make sure to post some pictures and tag me on social media so I can see what you’re up to!
Here’s to your Sexy, Restorative, Wild Weekend!
